31 Lessons I Learned In 31 Years

31 lessons learned in 31 years katie a beautiful little adventure

Today I turn 31 and like any good writer I’m sitting here reflecting on my last year. This is the year I got married, starting to feel a little physically older, and grew more comfortable with myself – body and mind. I thought I’d share a fun little list of 31 things I’ve learned in my 31 years.

31 Lessons in 31 Years

1. Don’t make assumptions. You rarely know the full story.

2.  Befriend your parents. It’s a once in a lifetime relationship and a friendship that will teach you the most.

3. Success is always in the eye of the beholder.

4. Take time for you. It’s not a selfish behavour. Take care of yourself and your happiness.

5. The cheaper the wine the worse the headache.

6. It’s okay to make mistakes. At least you’re doing something – like learning.

7. A dog can heal your soul.

8. Pause. You don’t have to make a decision immediately.

9. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else is.

10. A nap can fix a great number of things.

11. I’m not a career woman. My job doesn’t define me and never will.

12. Never say never.

13. Not everyone has to like you. Stop trying to please them and stop apologizing for what makes you happy.

14. Style has nothing to do with fashion.

15. Love is all around.

16. Be present. Listen with 100% of your body.

17. Family is everything.

18. Sometimes you just have to know when to say, “I give up” and pour yourself a drink. It’s okay.

19. Forgiveness is both the most hardest but most rewarding thing.

20. You have to create your own happiness.

21. 99% of people aren’t paying any attention to you.

22. Expensive shoes and accessories are worth it.

23. Never miss a chance to say “I Love You”.

24. Nourish and feed your body well. It’s a vessel not a trash can.

25. Truly focus on the select few things that you are good at.

26.  Respond to phone calls, letters,  texts, and emails. Even if there is no question, if someone reached out to you, respond.

27. You don’t have to look amazing at all times. Relax.

28. Use your voice. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind.

29. Don’t compare, there is always someone smarter, richer, prettier, and “happier” but there is no one else just like you.

30. No one ever has it figured all out, but each day is a fresh start at trying your best.

31. When you have the oppurtunity to dance, dance. Even if you look stupid, you’ll always have more fun than if you stayed in the corner.

Now eat an ice cream sundae and toast with some champagne with me. Cheers!

katie birthday margarita lake side

xoxo Katie





  • Happy, happy birthday – I hope your day is full of happiness and love! Also, I absolutely love this list – there are some gems in there!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you so much Ashley!! It’s been a great day so far. Glad you liked the list – it was fun to write, maybe a new tradition?!

  • Happy Birthday, friend! Thanks for sharing your beautiful list!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you!! I appreciate it! Glad you liked the list – life is a on going learning process and I have a feeling I”m just getting started!

  • Happy birthday! This is a great list!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you, Lauren! and Thanks for celebrating with me 🙂

  • Pat (Mom)

    Happy Birthday! I’m glad that dad and I are your friends and that you think family is very import ant and special. My friendship with you makes me happy everyday. Love you!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you, Mom. Glad to call you a best friend 🙂

  • happy birthday dear! hope it’s a happy day full of fun and love and cake! i love this list, you are wise beyond your years.

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you for stopping by and saying hi, Erin! It’s been a great day so far! I hope are you doing well and feeling good with the baby 🙂 I demand a baby update! (and I have the winter blues still too) Did not like waking up to snow this AM.

  • Happy birthday! !!!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you!!

  • Such great life lessons. I hope you have the best birthday EVER! xoxo

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you so much! It’s been a wonderful week of celebrations with family and friends and blog land 🙂 Thanks for stopping by.

  • 31 excellent life lessons! 🙂 Happy birthday from your newest follower!

    • kwalshmac

      I’m so glad you are here!and Thank you!

  • Happy birthday!!! What a great list. One of my biggest life lessons is to also never assume anything.

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you, Amanda!! I’m having a great day so far. I think the not assuming anything rule can be so hard to obey by sometimes. Always learning and always growing though!

  • Yes yes YES! Great list. Happy birthday! Go enjoy that champagne and ice cream! 🙂

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you!! And you can bet I enjoyed every last bite of my meal and dessert last night! No guilt!

  • Kind of late to the party but happy happy birthday, Katie!! This is an amazing list.:) I hope you had a memorable day! xoxo Donna

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you, Donna!!

  • Happy belated birthday! I love your list, especially the last one. Dancing is key!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you Annessas! The dance one is my favorite! Gotta keep life fun!!

  • Go March babies! (3/11/87 ova here) Really enjoyed this list. Happy Birthday Katie!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you!!! And Happy belated birthday to you! March babies are the best

  • Happy belated birthday!!! 😀 “Success is always in the eye of the beholder.” That one was my favorite! 🙂

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you Amanda! And yes, we can never judge anyone else’s choice of happiness or success – it’s hard to accept that sometimes though. We all somehow want the same things for others that we want for ourselves 🙂

  • What a great list of lessons. They’re were all great, and definitely things I need to keep in mind. I hope you had a happy happy birthday!

    • kwalshmac

      Thank you! Birthday was wonderful – I look forward to another year of learning, trying, making mistakes and growing!

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