Think Positive Monday: Choosing the Good Over the Bad

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(Think Positive Monday: sharing tips and keeping me in line to live a happier and more positive life)

“Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears.” Richard Wilkins

So often I’m quick to jump to the negative. One bad thing can make my entire day the worst. We all know misery loves company, that’s why it is so easy to metastasize and grow into something it is not. Pretty soon all the good little things in our day are forgotten and we are left with this big black cloud of ugliness. 

To help train my brain to focus on the good and not just the bad I practice this simple exercise.

Every night before bed I schedule in 10 minutes to mentally list three good things that happened to me that day. After I’ve thought about 3 positive experiences I then expand upon them and list why those good things happened. 

For example, on Friday one of the good things that happened that day was:

  1.  Knowing I was having a rough time my boss gifted me a pretty poinsettia and a Christmas ornament. (And this happened because my boss is kind and understanding)
  2. My mom was doing better after some bad health earlier in the week (And this happened because of good doctors and knowing how to take care of herself)
  3. After weeks of research and anxiety over it I had finally selected my new health insurance plan for 2015 and it’s better than what I had this year (and this happened because of patience, research, and the second patient eyes from Ryan, my Mom, and my boss)

A little awkward at first, but your brain should soon get into the habit of seeing the cause and effect of the good things in life too. 

It’s Christmas time, so don’t just be a little kind to those all around you, be a little kinder to yourself too. Love really is all around, you just have to look for it. 

 

 

 

  • Love this! That’s a great way to look back at the day and not get distracted by the stuff that doesn’t matter.

    • kwalshmac

      Yes, why does all that stuff that doesn’t matter take up so much room in our brains and hearts?

  • Definitely a great post. These past few weeks have been really trying and weird for me – but thank you for this reminder to CHOOSE happiness and positivity. Goes a long way!

    • kwalshmac

      Sorry to hear that you are going through a trying time! It takes work but we can choose a different perspective. I hope things get better!

  • It is so hard often to find the positive. However, over the last few months I’ve been actually “working and applying” myself at doing this very thing. Even if it is only to find two positive things that happened on a totally lousy day.
    On a side note, I feel your pain on selecting a new insurance for this upcoming year. I am still researching plans. I’ve assembled a “team” being my pharmacist, doctors, and computer algorithm to help determine the best plan. (I really hate change, especially since I already had a pretty sweet insurance plan.)

    • kwalshmac

      I know what you mean. We get this attitude in our head that only wants to focus on the negative. There is always good around us…and UGH health insurance. I’m glad for Obamacare but I wish it was a little easier/clearer to pick out plans. I had to switch last year and with that switch I had to change doctors and it was a mess. Now, that plan went up $75 a month so I was shopping for something cheaper. One day I hope for universal health care with only a few options that help everyone’s needs. I could write a whole post about insurance. But really rather not ha.

  • This is such great advice, once again. I do try to find the positive, but I’ve never thought to take it a step further and think about WHY good things happen.

    • kwalshmac

      I think that extra step really ingrains in our brains that good things happen for a reason and we have control over many good things happening to and for us. I’m glad you found it helpful!