Think Positive Monday: Make Commitments, Not Resolutions

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(Think Positive Monday: sharing tips and keeping me in line to live a happier and more positive life)

Happy New Year! I too am suffering from holiday break hangover this morning. It was a festive, indulgent, and relaxing holiday vacation. Now, we are refreshed and looking at the blank slate that is the New Year with optimism and high hopes. 

Yes, New Years, the time of resolutions. We all make them, even if we don’t broadcast them out over social media or to our friends and family, I can’t help but believe we all make small decisions to improve ourselves and our lives.

Many sound the same: live a healthier lifestyle, save money, lose weight, sleep more, quit smoking, drink less. 

I personally have vowed to follow two resolutions:

1. Save More Money

2. Relax More (a hard endeavour for an overly anxious woman like myself)

But the problem with resolutions? By March most of them have gone out the window. We are overly optimistic these first few weeks, thinking we hold the ability to turn our lives around. Then our busy schedules, stress, and old habits start to come back.

Fact: We always have the ability to turn out lives around.

The real problem with New Year’s resolutions is the fact that they are all overly vague. They are broad, general, ideas. So, you say want to live a healthier lifestyle…have you selected your meal plan or your weekly gym routine? How will you hold yourself accountable?

Yes, I’m determined to save more money, but without a working budget, a list of things we are going to cut from said budget, and a way to keep myself on track, that determination is nothing more than an optimistic thought. I say I want to relax, but if I don’t have a plan for the entire year of how to stress less I will never make any changes.

This may sound obvious, but if it is so obvious, why do so many people fail on their New Year’s Resolutions?

It’s all about the commitment. The act of following through, which takes an action plan and dose of daily intention. 

I vow to not just make resolutions but to make commitments. In order to save money we are in the process of dropping our cable subscription and finding ways to cut back on our grocery budget. In order to relax more I’m going to commit to practicing meditation and yoga,  go to bed earlier, and teach my mind to learn that it’s okay to let things be. 

What commitments do you plan to make for the new year and what is your plan for following through on them?

 

 

  • I LOVE this. Make Commitments, not resolutions!

    • kwalshmac

      Thanks! It’s pretty simple but hard to remember!

  • You’re so right! Along with every resolution should be a though-out plan of action, otherwise how do we hold ourselves accountable? Love it!

    • kwalshmac

      Holding myself accountable, that’s what I need to do almost every day. Why waste our good goals, hopes and dreams! This blog is a great “life coach” sometimes 🙂

  • haha yes you are right – so many are vague resolutions, makes it easier to not commit then hey! I am the same, eat healthier and only eat fresh produce as much as possible, cut down on processed foods….which is hard but i’m feeling so much better for it even just 6 days in! A hard commitment but if i tumble a few times I’m not going to beat myself up for it as I know i’m better off trying than not at all!

    isnt the grocery one hard to cut back on though! I need to do similar – which means less stops to the shops to just pick up something i forgot and just make do with what we have. 🙂

    Happy new year!

    • kwalshmac

      Glad to know I’m not the only one who struggles at the grocery store. I hear what some people’s LOW budgets are and I just don’t get how they survive (unless they’re only buying pasta and pizza?!?) That’s awesome that you are already feeling better after 6 days! Keep it! I try to do the same with eating mostly “clean” food but sometimes it’s hard while dining out or at parites or when I’m just crabby and tired. But like you said, every step is a step in the right direction.

  • Yes, yes! A resolution can fade away so quickly without commitment!

    • kwalshmac

      Yep and I need the extra push most days! Hope you’re having a Happy New Year!

  • love this! those are 2 of my goals this year too!