6 Reasons I’m A Bad Blogger

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Maybe I refuse to conform. Maybe I’m just lazy. I don’t know. I just know I’m a pretty bad blogger.

Others treat their blogs like mini side businesses. Drafting plans in pretty little planners and writing posts weeks ahead and actually scheduling them to be published. They have an advanced advertising and marketing plan, and promote themselves endlessly on all social media platforms. I commend them. If you’re one of those bloggers, good work! Also, when do you sleep?

I love this space and sharing my heart and words. I love the documentation and making new connections and friends with women from all over. But when it comes down to it, I’m not the best blogger.

Here’s 6 reasons why:

Consistency

I skipped out on yesterdays Think Positive Monday post because I’m recovering from a bout with the flu and had zero energy. I try to write Monday, Wednesday, and Friday but lately it’s only been twice a week. Hell sometimes it’s once a week. I’ll never be the type of blogger to follow a rigid schedule.

Social Media Promotion

I love Instagram but it’s rare when I have more than one interesting photo to publish every few days. I rarely use Facebook for blog promotion, other than automatic links to my posts. Does anyone read blogs via Facebook anyways? I generally forget about Twitter. Occasionally I remember and will get on for a day and go crazy but then forget about it again for a few weeks. I didn’t even have a Twitter account before blogging. When I’m hanging out away from work I’d rather not be on my phone or computer. Also promoting myself always feels inauthentic. Does that ever go away?

Networking

Along the same lines as social media I’m not the best at networking with other bloggers. Sure, I form friendships, email and text back and forth and do the occasional guest posts…but that’s where it ends. I don’t search out partnerships or link ups or even participate in a lot of link ups. I know it garners more readers but sometimes it doesn’t feel true to myself. And that’s what’s most important to me. 

Stylized Shots

I’ve only done one fashion posts. I love taking photos of scenery and family.  I love my DSLR and playing around with it. But I’m not the best of taking stylized shots for every post. That would take too much planning (see above). I don’t go all out with pinterest perfect and matchy patchy photoshoots for post photos or recipe photos. Sometimes wish I had that much patience and equipment but nope. You get what you get. 

Amazing and Ever Changing Web Design

I’ve had the same blog design since I started this blog over a year and a half ago. Sure my picture changes and there are little updates here and there, but I don’t go crazy with an amazing design. (hell, I even DO graphic design). My priority is in the words not the design. I hope that doesn’t deter you. 

Caring What Other’s Think

I care too much about what others will think to write what is on my mind 100% of the time. A goal of mine is to break down this wall and be more vulnerable and write for a niche rather than write for all. It’s hard putting everything out there to be judged by strangers. Just spend 10 minutes on Gomi to see what I mean. Whenever someone from my real life says they read my blog my gut reaction is to run and hide. 

Boring Life

In general my life is pretty boring. We don’t go on more than 2-3 trips a year. I work a typical job in a typical small city on the East coast. I spend more nights at home watching TV or reading with my dog than out on the town trying new things. I’m not going through an emotional crisis, have children, or experience a life change. It’s just me living an everyday life and documenting my everyday thoughts. Sometimes I’m still surprised anyone else other than my mom reads this. But THANK YOU. Thank you for letting me be me. The non conformist lazy blogger that you still come and check in on. 

And here’s me on an average day:

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On Blogging – One Year In

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One year ago today I started this blog. 

This was my first real post. It’s kind of embarrassing. But blogging is always kind of embarrassing, right?

I’ve learned a lot during my first year of blogging. In the beginning I knew nothing. I had never heard of link ups and had no idea sponsorships existed. The idea some people pull in a steady blogging paycheck each month blew my mind.

Last August I was a sparkly newlywed full of hope and ready to start something new. One of my freelance employees suggested that I start writing articles sharing  my personal perspective on life as a newlywed. I was a little hesitant, but the fact that he was paying me for each article made me try it anyways. 

Soon after writing these cliché newlywed articles for him I decided to branch out and start my very own blog, writing about whatever I wanted. I have since stopped writing the for profit articles. They felt false and forced. Probably because money was involved. 

What I’ve Learned Since Then:

Blogging is hard. Much harder than I thought it was.  It takes time, effort, and a fearless attitude.

The Best Advice:

The best advice I received before starting this blog is the best advice I also give: Be authentic. 

It’s very easy to lose sight of your true self in blogging.

You get lost in the comparison game. In the number game. In blogging just to blog. You get lost feeling like you have to blog every damn day. Your voice gets lost. 

It’s easy to get caught up in the numbers. Even when you say, “No, no I could care less about the numbers, I’m writing for me!” Please, if you were writing for yourself, you’d write in a private journal. A little piece of you will always care about the numbers. 

Other bloggers will start to feel like the mean girls that would never invite you to the cool high school parties. But remember, the good people always, always, out weigh the bad.

One day, you’ll see 15 bloggers blogging about the very same topic. Sponsored posts take over and you wonder “What’s the point?”

Like most things in life, my blogging goes through ebbs and flows. I’ll have a month where I can’t get the words out fast enough. I’m filled with ideas and questions. Other months I’m at a loss at what to say and fall back on recipes, lists, and link ups that end up feeling un-authentic and dry. And still, other months I feel so disheartened by blogging. Times when it all feels like a big pointless game I just want to shut it all down.

I’ve learned to take blogging breaks. Breaks are okay! A week or two off here and there will never hurt you. I’m learned to leave blogging behind for a bit and to let new ideas come in. To gain a fresh perspective. And then I come back with a new whole passion for blogging and sharing. 

There are no set rules. Make your own and follow them. 

Blogging will always be weird, a little nerdy, and very narcissistic. People will judge you but a few people will connect with you. Even if one new person connects with you, it is worth it.

I’m not sure what the future of this blog holds for me. I hope you continue along on the journey!

xoxo Katie

Top Ten Posts of 2013

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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Each and everyday I am surprised that people want to hear the everyday thoughts of little old me. I love interacting with you and finding new friends in this blogging community. I can’t wait for what 2014 has in store!

I started this blog in mid August 2013. Here are the top ten posts, based on readers, since the birth of A Beautiful Little Adventure.

Quinoa Pizza Bits – Healthy Snack

An easy and tasty snack that tastes like pizza! I owe my thanks for Pinterest and the fact that Quinoa is the second most favorite buzz word of 2013 (behind that braggy Kale)

5 Friday Favorites – Gifts that Give Back

Unique gifts for all types on your list – bonus at least 25% of proceeds go to charity!

{Love Story Part 1} When I Lost Sight of Love

My love story series was my favorite thing to write since I’ve started this little blog. This is the one that kicked it all off.

Skinny Chicken Enchiladas

Like you, I’m always trying out healthier alternatives of my favorite recipes. This one does not disappoint!

5 Friday Favorites – Procrastination

Discussing something we all have in common – procrastination! Ranting about my love hate relationship with social media.

Pop-Pop’s Life Lessons and Advice – a video

Pop-Pop is a very special man. To honor him on his birthday I did a special family history interview on video.

5 Reasons I Celebrate Christmas “Early”

Christmas is my favorite! Here are my reasons to stretch the season as long as you can.

Wedding Recap – Secret Garden Theme and Vision

My first (and so far only) recap of my June 2 wedding.

My battle with the hair salon

Gif and giggle heavy posts about my trips to the salon.

What’s in a Name?

My struggle over whether or not to change my name after getting married.

See you all in 2014! Have fun celebrating tonight!

xoxo katie

Go Big or Go Home

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Some people wonder why I blog…

I started this little blog about 3 months ago and it has already taken me to places I never knew I’d go – or even knew existed!

I started this blog because a colleague suggested I write about newlywed life. I was hesitate and put it off for a month or so. And then, I started writing. At first, it was strictly going to be about wedding planning and newlywed life and my colleague was going to sponsor me. Very quickly, and I mean very, as in 3 days, it turned into something completely different.

The more I wrote, the more I read.

Before starting this blog, I never knew there was such a thing as the blogging community. I knew nothing about blogging – nothing about sponsorships, guest posts, giveaways, or how to best use social media to connect. There are millions of bloggers out there, connecting with each other on a daily basis. I have about 200 blogs in my bloglovin feed and there are many out of that list that I look forward to reading on the daily.

I love hearing others people’s stories, reading their words, and connecting. I love how I feel like they are speaking to me. Three months ago I had no idea how welcoming this blogging community was – that in just a few short weeks I’d be swapping ideas and connecting with other women across the country.

The more I wrote, the more self-aware I became

As a lifestyle blogger, I force myself to look at my day-to-day activities with a very intimate lens. I have learned to appreciate the small things more. This blog allows me to think more about my past, my future, and my choices.  Writing 4-5 posts  a week  forces me to be more creative. It has certainly slowed down my life and has brought a new perspective.

The more I wrote, the more I realized that I wanted to share.

Writing allows me to express myself.  This little corner of the internet serves as an outlet for me to be true to myself. The more I wrote, the more this little part of the internet felt like home to me.

I like to share my story because I believe in the power of words to connect people. If one person can relate to my story and have it make her (there aren’t any men that read this blog are there? If yes, then I’m sorry, keep reading!)  feel not so alone – that is enough for me.

I was inspired to write this post after Sarah at Venus Trapped in Mars discuss being open on the blog and asking her readers which type of blog they would rather read – “A blog without a face, so to speak, or a blog all about the face?”

My opinion?

Go big or go home.

This is my space to share my story and I’m going to be as personal as I can be. I want to connect.  I’m sorry but I just don’t connect with those bloggers that always have the perfect outfit on, with perfect makeup and talk about how perfect their lives are on the daily.

I’m not perfect and my life is far from it.

Sometimes I’m messy. Sometimes I’m broken. Sometimes I’m selfish and immature. Sometimes I’m insecure. But, I am me and this is my story. I titled my blog “A Beautiful Little Adventure” because everyone’s life is an adventure-there are going to be bumps in the road and you are going to get lost. But in the end, it’s always more about the journey and those moments when life’s little bumps turn into something beautiful.

I wrote a very personal post yesterday. It was my most personal post yet and it was also my most read post yet. A few family and friends may not understand why I want to put so much personal information out their on the internet. They just don’t get it, and that’s a okay! But this is my story to tell, no one has to read it. But some people keep coming back each day and it makes me smile.

I’ve committed myself to this little lifestyle blog – so I’m going to give it my all. Why only give little snippets of the story or allude to what really happened? Why mask the truth?

My most personal posts are the most rewarding to write. They make this big scary world into a smaller place. They celebrate the little messy puzzle pieces of our lives and connect them into a beautiful thing.

I’m committed to go big, to share it all, and to continue to write my little heart out.

Thank you.

xoxo katie

 

 

Spreading the Love – The Liebster Award

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I have been nominated for a Liebster Award by the lovely Lauren at A Step-Mom in Training. The Liebster Award provides a fun and easy way to get to know other new bloggers (you must have under 200 followers).  You then must also nominate 10 other blogs. What a warm welcome into the blogging community, this is a great way to meet new bloggers like yourself as well as get people to learn about you.  – Thanks Lauren!

The Liebster Award Rules:

  1. You must link back to the person who nominated you.

  2. You must answer the 10 Liebster questions given to you by the nominee before you.

  3. You must pick 10 bloggers to be nominated for the award with under 200 followers.

  4. You must come up with 10 questions for your nominees to answer.

  5. You must go to their blogs and notify your nominees.

The Questions I Was Asked:

  1. Who has influenced you the most?  This is such a typical answer, but it has to be my Mom. Like most other mothers, she has played a critical role in shaping who I am. As a child, you have no choice into who influences you – you are shaped by your environment. But, now that I’m a grown woman I make the choice to look towards my mother for advice, influence, and a shoulder to cry on. She has quickly become one of my best friends. It’s a beautiful thing. 
  2. What experience in life do you remember the most? The time that I also reflect on the most are my college years. This was such a magical time – a time to experiment and decide who you want to be, with the freedom to make mistakes and learn as you go. There are so many good memories with friends.  I often get very nostalgic about my days at Washington College – even though at the time I probably wanted it to fly by! 
  3. If you could get one re-do what would it be? Not date a certain someone for such a long period of my life. 
  4. What made you start your blog? Someone I freelance for suggested I start writing a blog – at first I was hesitant and then I quickly realized this is something I’ve always wanted to attempt to do. So here I am, throwing my words out on the internet. 
  5. If you could be anyone for a day who would you be and why? My Pop-Pop. He is the most charming and kind man. He basically knows a little bit about every person that he runs into. He has lived an elaborate life and always has the best stories. To be him for a day would mean getting to experience all of his wisdom and life stories. We can all learn a little something from Pop-Pop. 
  6. Do you believe in true love? I believe that love is true. 
  7. What are three things on your bucket list that you already accomplished or want to accomplish? Oh I love lists! Three things I WANT to accomplish 1. Be a mother (birth or adopt) 2. Become a better writer 3. Own a house on the water
  8. When you die what impact do you want to remember about you? I want to be remembered as being kind. The type of person you can openly talk to, hug, or ask for help. 
  9. What is the biggest challenge you have overcome? My life has been easy – this questions always makes me feel bad, because in the end I’ve had to overcome what many others overcome daily – heart-break, depression, not knowing where to take my life – these aren’t obstacles, these are just parts of life. 
  10. Are you the person you grew up wanting to be? Working on it! I still have time don’t I? 

Here are my questions for my nominated bloggers to answer:

1.  If there was a movie about your life who would play you?

2. What song is currently on “repeat” for you?

3. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

4. What was the best vacation you’ve ever been on?

5. What is the best book that you’ve read in the past year?

6. What is your “go to” recipe for dinner?

7. What did you want to be when you were a kid?

8. What is the best thing you read on the internet this week?

9. Favorite place in your home

10. What is the story behind your worst scar?

My nominated blogs:

http://jessebpage.wordpress.com/

http://fayness.wordpress.com/

http://www.awonderfulveganlife.com/

http://lawschoolandlullabies.wordpress.com/

http://eclectanerds.wordpress.com/

http://shabbyprincess.blogspot.com/

http://msdooh.wordpress.com/

http://myknottedlife.com/

http://wifemeetslife.com/

http://wifeonabudget.blogspot.com/

Please link me back when you post! I would love to read everyone’s answers!

xoxo katie

Something New

Well, I’ve joined the blogging world. I’ve been inspired and entertained by many blogs that I read and as a writer I have been waiting for that special moment to arrive where I felt the need to write. When a colleague suggested that I start a blog about newlywed life and wedding planning I immediately sighed and thought, “Who cares what I have to say, do you know how many newlywed blogs there are out there?”_DHP7252

But the more I thought about why I like to read the blogs I follow on a regular basis, I realized I liked them because they made the everyday ho-hum parts of life into special moments. I too believe that every day should have its own little celebration. Yes, it’s true that most could care less about my ordinary life but we all have our own stories to share and our own special perspective of life, and this is mine: stay tuned!

Newlywed Bliss