5 Tips To Stay Stress Free While Wedding Planning

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Wedding season is officially upon us! Exactly one year ago I was in a constant mode of anxiety and excitement, jumping through many hoops and putting out many fires. Yes, last May I was deep in the final stages of wedding planning. As I survived and enjoyed a very lovely and beautiful wedding day, I thought I’d share some tips with brides to be on how to stay calm and less stressed in the weeks leading up to your wedding day.

There’s no doubt that the time surrounding a woman’s wedding day is equally one of the most stressful and exciting times in her life. After a quick 6-month engagement, my husband and I got married last June. It was a beautiful day but I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I endured my fair share of stress and anxiety throughout those 6 months.

Stress and bride are two words that inevitably go together. No matter how carefully you plan or how organized you are, there never seems to be enough time to get everything done. You feel like you’re riding an endless emotional rollercoaster as you deal with the stress and the pressure from vendors, money, family, the wedding party, and all of the upcoming change.

Here are 5 tips to help brides stay stress free during wedding planning:

1. Learn To Delegate Tasks
Weddings take A LOT of work. Do not feel like you have to take it all on by yourself. This was hard for me. Too often I felt like no one else would do it as good as me or that I’d be bothering people by asking them to help. Wrong and wrong! Once I got over it, I realized a lot of people were willing to help.
Split up tasks and delegate small jobs to bridesmaids, your fiancé, family, and other friends. They’ll be happy to be a part of executing your big day!

2. Schedule Date Nights (where no wedding talk is allowed)
Be sure to schedule in some alone time for you and your fiancé. Go out, have fun, let loose, and force yourself to not talk about the wedding. This will help the two of you to stay connected and learn to lean on each other – remember, the big day is about the two of you and the celebration of your life long commitment and love for each other! It’s supposed to be fun!

3. Get Organized!
This may sound like a given, but being truly organized with to-do lists and spreadsheets will help you remain put together and not question if you are forgetting anything important. Even if you hate lists – now is the time to start making them! There are hundreds of tasks, items to remember, and budgets to make. I found it helpful to break down the wedding day tasks into categories and make separate folders with their own lists and spreadsheets for each category. Think: Caterer, Florists, Decorations, Music, Wedding Party etc. This helps to not feel so overwhelmed by the magnitude of things to do.

4. Take Care Of Yourself
Schedule some “me time” and be sure to use it to relax and take care of yourself. Continue to exercise and eat healthy, book a massage, shop for the honeymoon, and get enough sleep. Do any activity that makes you feel relaxed and human. It’s easy to lose yourself amidst all of the stress.

5. Lastly, remember, only you will know if something little goes awry
I get it; I worried painfully about every last detail. I spent so much time designing and selecting every element of my wedding – from the flowers, to the centerpieces, to the escort cards, to the tuxes and dresses. Panic attacks woke me up in the middle of the night on a regular basis. The idea of one of my table settings to turn out not exactly as I imagined drove me mad.

In all honesty, no one else will ever notice or care if something small goes wrong. People are there to witness your love and to enjoy a good party. At the end of the day no one will remember most of the small details.

I nearly died when I discovered our tux rental place had messed up our order and did not have enough of the blush ties I wanted each of the groomsmen to wear. Tears were shed. In the end, the groomsmen wore cream ties and looked just as lovely.

People are going to remember how much of a good time they had and how beautiful you looked, not what shade of white paper the table settings were printed on.

Your wedding day is a day set aside to celebrate you and your love. Once you get as organized as you can, try not to sweat the small stuff and to enjoy every moment. A tremendous amount of pressure is put on weddings, but it’s only one day out of your entire life. The day is going to go by in the blink of an eye, be present in the moment and enjoy the specialness of the day.

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This post was originally published on Married To The Game

xoxo Katie
 

 

“Love Birds” Bridal Shower

It’s Wedding Season!

This past Sunday I was honored to host my best and oldest friends Bridal Shower. As soon as she got engaged I began planning this day, wanting every detail to be perfect and precious. I was experiencing some post wedding blues at the closure of my wedding celebrations, knowing that I had her shower planning to look forward to made me so happy.

Love Birds Bridal Shower Kay Marie the Bride
Love Birds Bridal Shower, bridesmaids
Everything about the shower except for the time and the venue was kept a secret. Do you know how hard it was to keep all my ideas, planning, and crafting under wraps for the past year? With the help and major support of the other bridesmaids we pulled off a beautiful shower with many happy guests and an extremely happy and blushing bride. 

My best friend, Kay Marie loves birds and all things little and precious. The only logical theme to me was “Love Birds”. I wanted to evoke a whimsical rustic feeling with teal and orange being the main colors. With the theme in place, everything else soon fell into place.

Love Birds invite, bridal shower
We held the event at an art gallery which provided a romantic yet eclectic setting. The art that was presently displayed in the gallery was all Beatles themed. Although not woodsy or bird related, I was still please. I mean, who doesn’t love The Beatles?

Love Birds bridal shower art gallery room
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It was fun to pick out all of the specific linens and decorations and to really design the whole event. Every last detail was carefully selected with love. Check out these precious bird candles I found to use as favors. They were THE perfect color!

Love Birds favors bridal shower

I created a “Mimosa Bar” allowing guests to create their own mimosa’s mixing juice and fruit. This was so fun to plan and was a hit with everyone! I’ve never opened so many bottles of champagne in my life! 

Mimosa Bar bridal shower
Mimosa Bar bridal shower
mimosa bar bridal shower

I love my DIY tassel garland displayed behind the mimosa bar. So easy and affordable to make! Look for a tutorial soon. 

One of my fellow bridesmaids is a fabulous chef. She selfishly volunteered to plan the menu and cook all of the food. She came into town on Friday and I and another girl acted as her sous chefs all weekend as she took over my kitchen. Even though it was a lot of work, the food was all delicious and had that extra special ingredient, hand-made by a close friend. Everyone was raving about the food. 

The menu included  minted berry salad with candied walnuts, a chocolate fruit display (a la edible arrangements), caprese skewers, cheese, brie en croute, spinach dip, meatballs, crab cakes, mini mac and cheeses, Quiche Lorraine, macaroons, lavender lemon cupcakes and shortbread cookies. 

Bridal shower food
love birds bridal shower food
love birds bridal shower desserts
love birds bridal shower cupcakes and bird cookies
bridal shower cheese

We entertained with several fun games and activites including an “Off Limits” bracelet game, our version of The Newlywed Game, and a Wishing Tree. 

off limits bridal shower game

wishing tree bridal shower, love birds theme

wishing tree love birds themed bridal shower

wishing tree, bridal shower, advice cards


It was a beautiful day and three days later I’m still glowing from it. I always find it so heart warming and wonderful to have all of the women you are closest to in your life gather together for you and support you. There was so much love in the room on Sunday, it was truly . Kay Marie you are loved. I’m so excited for this next stage of your life!

Here are a few more photos of this fabulous day! 


kay playing the newlywed game at bridal shower
playing the newlywed game at bridal shower
maid of honor and bride at bridal shower
bridesmaids posing at bridal shower
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bridal shower stuf muffin dog shirt
bridal shower gift
bridal shower gift
bridal shower gift
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bridesmaids and bride being silly love birds bridal shower
bridesmaids at love birds bridal shower
Love Birds Bridal Shower
love birds bridal shower
love birds bridal shower
Bride and Mother of the Bride
Love Birds Bridal Shower Garland
love birds bridal shower, bride and groom
xoxo Katie