Hello 2015! Time to Relax!

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Happy New Year, friends! We’re already a week into 2015 and it’s already zooming by. 

Our New Year’s celebration was pretty low key but very nice. As my Christmas gift, my boss treated us to a very nice and fancy dinner out on New Year’s Eve. We enjoyed delicious wine and seafood and had fun dressing up. At midnight we said cheers to the Near Year and made some resolutions. 

As I shared on Monday one of my New Years resolutions is to relax more. That may sound funny to you. How hard is it to relax? Do you really need to make a resolution to lounge around and sleep more? If you know anything about me, you know I’m a big worrier and suffer from anxiety. My constant state of worry often makes me lose out on moments of joy. Instead of basking in the moment and taking it all in, my mind is thinking about everything that could go wrong or trying to create a perfect plan so that everything falls into place how we want it.

No matter how many times I learn that I’m not in control of how the world turns, I can’t stop trying to take control or worry about the outcome.

That’s why I decided that my word of 2015 is going to be RELAX. 

2015 is a year of growth and change for Ryan and I. Ryan will be finishing up law school and will be graduating in May. He will be leaving his current job while studying for the bar. We will be moving to a new house in a new area. And then he will be starting his career at his new job in September. This is the time we’ve been waiting for and I want to experience it with joy, not anxiety. 

So in addition to lessening stress and finding the calm in those big moments of change I am also going to start incorporating peaceful and positive changes in my daily life. Like, practicing meditation, yoga, and sleeping more. As well as making priorities and sticking to them while also making sure I have time for myself and my needs. I want to feel centered and relaxed yet intent.  If that means blogging only once or twice a week, so be it! 

Through these changes I am committed to staying relaxing and adopting a “come what will” or “whatever will be” attitude. We are going to be fine, no matter what. Let’s make the ride an adventure, and an enjoyable one, while we are still on it!

What are you hoping to achieve in the New Year?

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Honeymoon – A Place Where Time Stands Still

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My Honeymoon Advice: Go on one! (But don’t treat it like any other normal vacation)

A honeymoon is a true necessity after getting married. You don’t have to spend a lot of money. You don’t have to go somewhere exotic. You can even have a honeymoon at home if you want! The important thing is having quality time together to celebrate your new union – just the two of you.

Our wedding was beautiful and perfect – but the preparing was so stressful. It was a busy day that flew by with little time for us to reflect on what just took place. Fast forward to the honeymoon which felt like a land where time stood still. We could take time to look at one another and exclaim, “You’re my husband’ and “You’re my wife”! “We actually did it!!!”

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We spent five days at Sandals White House, an all-inclusive resort in Jamaica – it was heavenly. We did nothing but sleep, eat, drink, read, swim, and sleep some more.

You stressed enough over your wedding, do not stress over your honeymoon. I’m a huge planner with a capital P. I like to plan out every hour of a vacation to make sure we fit everything in, to make sure we see EVERYTHING. So, for this tip, I decided that a honeymoon and a vacation were not one in the same.

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We decided we wanted to go some place where everything was decided for us. No extra day trips to discuss and make compromises about. No early wake up calls for tours or museums. Don’t get me wrong – I love all that stuff, but during our honeymoon the biggest decisions we had to make was “what bathing suit should I wear today?”, “what should our next drink be?” and “what type of massage should we get?” (massage was the best part of the week by the way!)

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A brief history on the origin of  honeymoons:

The word honeymoon dates back to the Norse word “hjunottsmanathr”. Northern European history describes a story of a bride being abducted from a  neighboring village. The abductor, the husband-to-be, takes his bride into hiding for a period of time. Once the bride’s family gave up their search, the bride groom returned to his people.

The Scandinavian word for honeymoon is derived, in part, from an ancient Northern European custom in which newlyweds, for the first month of their married life, drank a daily cup of honeyed wine called mead.

You can see how today’s idea of a honeymoon is a result of this folklore. We had the urge and need to hide away from the rest of the world for a blissful period of time – even if we no longer consume a honeyed wine meant for fertility – we definitely imbibed in drink and food!

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We took the time to relax. It didn’t take me long to let go of planning and just do nothing. It was a celebratory week and we felt like celebrities. Going back to the real world and work was an adjustment and I still haven’t lost the 5 pounds I gained eating ice cream every night! There will never be another trip or time like your honeymoon, relish in it!

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