Honeymoon – A Place Where Time Stands Still

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My Honeymoon Advice: Go on one! (But don’t treat it like any other normal vacation)

A honeymoon is a true necessity after getting married. You don’t have to spend a lot of money. You don’t have to go somewhere exotic. You can even have a honeymoon at home if you want! The important thing is having quality time together to celebrate your new union – just the two of you.

Our wedding was beautiful and perfect – but the preparing was so stressful. It was a busy day that flew by with little time for us to reflect on what just took place. Fast forward to the honeymoon which felt like a land where time stood still. We could take time to look at one another and exclaim, “You’re my husband’ and “You’re my wife”! “We actually did it!!!”

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We spent five days at Sandals White House, an all-inclusive resort in Jamaica – it was heavenly. We did nothing but sleep, eat, drink, read, swim, and sleep some more.

You stressed enough over your wedding, do not stress over your honeymoon. I’m a huge planner with a capital P. I like to plan out every hour of a vacation to make sure we fit everything in, to make sure we see EVERYTHING. So, for this tip, I decided that a honeymoon and a vacation were not one in the same.

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We decided we wanted to go some place where everything was decided for us. No extra day trips to discuss and make compromises about. No early wake up calls for tours or museums. Don’t get me wrong – I love all that stuff, but during our honeymoon the biggest decisions we had to make was “what bathing suit should I wear today?”, “what should our next drink be?” and “what type of massage should we get?” (massage was the best part of the week by the way!)

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A brief history on the origin of  honeymoons:

The word honeymoon dates back to the Norse word “hjunottsmanathr”. Northern European history describes a story of a bride being abducted from a  neighboring village. The abductor, the husband-to-be, takes his bride into hiding for a period of time. Once the bride’s family gave up their search, the bride groom returned to his people.

The Scandinavian word for honeymoon is derived, in part, from an ancient Northern European custom in which newlyweds, for the first month of their married life, drank a daily cup of honeyed wine called mead.

You can see how today’s idea of a honeymoon is a result of this folklore. We had the urge and need to hide away from the rest of the world for a blissful period of time – even if we no longer consume a honeyed wine meant for fertility – we definitely imbibed in drink and food!

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We took the time to relax. It didn’t take me long to let go of planning and just do nothing. It was a celebratory week and we felt like celebrities. Going back to the real world and work was an adjustment and I still haven’t lost the 5 pounds I gained eating ice cream every night! There will never be another trip or time like your honeymoon, relish in it!

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Back to School

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Yesterday was our last day of summer. Ryan heads back to law school today. This means going back to only seeing him on the weekends, unless you count the moments around 12:30 am that he sneaks into bed after getting home after a long day. Or, at 5:30 in the morning as he politely shuffles around getting ready in the morning while I’m still sleeping peacefully. See, not only is he a law student, he also works full-time at the DA’s office. I’m amazed at how he manages to “do it all”.

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It is hard being married to an adult student (and that’s coming from the partner who is not doing all the work). I know A LOT of people have it much harder than us– those with spouses in the armed forces or working in separate states or countries. But we face our own small struggles. Ryan is always tired and always anxious. He lives off of 5 hours a sleep a night and goes from 6 am – 12:30 am each week day. We have four more semesters to struggle through and I’m sure they will go fast. In the meantime we muddle through. This means often having to put off a few of our dreams and plans until ALS (after law school). Money and time are tight. I’m left with much time to dive into my work and day-dream about the future. We do a lot of hoping. We hope that his old beaters of a car will get us through two more years. We hope I can keep my current job. We hope we can remain in our current rental. We hope for a job after he passes his bar so we can start to conquer the mountain of student loan debt (his and mine both).

We enjoyed a lot of quality time together this summer. We made sure to really celebrate being newlyweds. Yesterday was our final salute to the summer. It was a good last day to relax and to be calm before the stress of school and work crashes over us.

We took time to enjoy a slow Sunday to take it all in. To slow life down a beat, to remember all that was and all that will be. We sat out all morning on our deck with our dog Maggie and read and chatted about how far we’ve come and what lies ahead this year. It was a picturesque last day of summer that smelled faintly like freshly sharpened pencils and shiny new plastic binders. Which to me were always synonymous with freshly minted dreams of the new school year. The bright green trees simply existed against the clear blue sky – begging to be noticed – to be admired for simply being. As I looked at Ryan and back out at the sky I could only think “this is my life” and it’s pretty beautiful.

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